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Today’s edition marks a special one.

This is the 50th newsletter I’m writing for you guys!

And for it, I want to share a personal story.

The Search for Purpose That Drove Me Crazy

For years, I obsessed over finding my purpose.

I thought if I could just figure out that one thing, everything else would click into place.

But instead, it left me stuck, second-guessing every decision.

I’d see people online talking about how they had “found their calling,” and I’d start questioning everything:

• "Am I on the right path?"

• "Should I be doing something else?"

• "Why don’t I have this one, clear purpose like everyone else seems to?"

I spent way too much time thinking, overthinking, and procrastinating because I felt like I couldn’t fully commit to something until I figured out my one true purpose.

Then, one day, after yet another deep dive into “how to find your purpose” videos, I had a realization:

Your Life Was Never Meant to Have Just ONE Purpose

In the morning, your purpose might be to get a workout in.

At work, it’s to build something meaningful.

With your partner, it’s to listen, support, and laugh together.

Your day is already multi-purposeful.

So why put this insane pressure on yourself to find that one purpose that’s supposed to define your entire existence?

It’s an ego trap.

A trick your mind plays on you.

It tells you that once you find the answer, everything will magically fall into place.

But life doesn’t work like that.

The Purpose Procrastination Trap

Believing you need to find one big, all-encompassing purpose paralyzes you.

It sure did for me.

Meanwhile, life was happening.

And I was missing it.

So I changed the standard ‘’What’s my one purpose?’’ question to:

"How can I build a life that supports all the things that matter to me?"

That’s when everything changed.

I stopped waiting for clarity and started creating it.

Instead of looking for one answer, I let myself have multiple:

• In my business, my purpose is to serve others.

• At home, my purpose is to be a great partner.

• When I’m alone, my purpose is to be present.

When I ditched the ‘sacrifice this for that’ mindset, everything fell into place.

Taking the pressure off made me more productive, more focused, and a hell of a lot happier.

The Better Question to Ask

A better question to define your purpose is:

"What would I want written on my gravestone?"

It wouldn’t be just one thing. It’d probably be:

• A passionate entrepreneur

• A loving husband

• A great father

That’s the reality of purpose.

It’s not something you need to find.

It’s already here—in the things you care about today.

Much love,

Martijn